Years ago, the great lyricist, Michel LeGrand, promised the women of this world, “If it takes forever, I will wait for you. For a thousand summers, I will wait for you!”
This is what every woman dreams. You will accept no other woman but her. As the Bee Gee’s boldly put it in Saturday Night Fever, “If I can’t have you, I don’t want nobody, baby. If I can’t have you…” The love of your life is in a class all by herself.
Women and men are wired differently. Despite women’s lib and the sexual revolution, not all that much has really changed. The “war of the sexes” is a fact of life, because illusions die hard.
Men want it NOW. Women want it only when the time is right.
Even with the pill and a plethora of contraceptives, guilt runs rampant in our culture. Quick thrills means sex, and quick sex means cheap. The only women who jump recklessly in bed are “working women” or professional lovers with credit card in hand.
A Totally Different Mindset
Most boys are not raised with the prohibition, “Don’t talk with strangers.” Most girls are. Parents of teenage girls worry a whole lot more than those of teenage boys as to what happens on their first date.
Traditionally, there was good reason to protect a woman’s virginity, as it was to be her husband’s prize possession.
A compromised virginity, regardless of religious reasons, weakened a bride’s value in the market. This was all before herpes and AID’s and a host of sexually transmitted diseases. At some point, sexual intercourse meant risking your life.
To top it all off, many clever women learned to discourage a man’s initial attempts to test his sincerity. If a woman was too easy in the initial approach, she was devalued in the eyes of many men.
“One night stands” are most often disappointing. Waiting became, not only a matter of morality, but also of prudence.
A Totally Different Body
Few men really think about the implications of being penetrated by another person. This demands a high degree of trust. When you add the risk of pregnancy, the anxiety factor becomes much greater.
Females are built differently than males as far as sexual responsiveness. It usually takes even an experienced lover many times longer to come. Love before sex is always preferable. It requires an experienced, sensitive lover to genuinely fulfill a woman. Practice makes perfect.
Women’s body sensations are linked to their emotions. Powerful feelings of love can trigger sexual feelings, which no amount of foreplay alone can produce.
A Totally Different Pocket Book
Even today, women as a whole make considerably less than men in American society. While antidiscrimination laws are on the books, the facts remain.
Women often have to work harder to make as much as men. Even worse, many women still bear the conventional requirements of keeping house and caring for their children while building their professional career.
Most men would not become women, even if you paid them. Being a woman is inherently a harder job.
Wise women are consoled by their potential to bring life into the world, as well as a greater ability to just BE, to enjoy every moment as it emerges. They like to play, but they are not anywhere near as caught up in games.
Unless a woman consciously tries to be a man in the workforce, she doesn’t develop a rigid goal orientation. She is highly pragmatic in valuing having over doing. One of the great ironies is that, later in life, she ends up holding most of the wealth in the country as her spouse dies off early.
When Women Wait Too Long
Many women overdo this. They fall in love with playing hard to get. They snub men or take them for all they’ve got. They don’t return calls, and otherwise act flakey.
Even if these women date men, they put them off night after night to the point where bitter frustration sets in. The men finally get the idea to give up and drop the lady.
Ironically, it is just about this time in the courtship that women really get interested in their men.
Since women are much less predisposed to tell their man they love him, men are driven to the conclusion that the most they can ever hope from that woman is an insipid friendship.
We illustrate the process below.
Don’t You Really Want Sex with Love?
As a man, you might want to ask yourself, do you really want sex without love?
The anonymity of an orgy can be a delicious fantasy for men. However, the closer you look at it, the crazier it gets. As you grow older, it becomes more and more obvious that the real payoff is love.
Sex can be a wonderful expression of love. Apart from love, it becomes very empty very fast.
The Love of Your Life Is Worth the Wait
The answer for a man lies in the determination to cultivate friendships with many different people, men AND women. Men may be pleasantly surprised that their very best companionship can actually be with a woman.
The man can then have the emotional and mental space to be extremely selective about the woman he chooses. When he meets The Right One, she is likely to knock him off his feet. He maintains his composure, as he has built a life of his own.
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The Right One respects and appreciates him from the very beginning. She is good humored and patient. She has the divine gift of making a man feel like a real man, ultimately special.
As the man and woman become best friends, they learn to cherish the time they spend together. Sexual expression comes spontaneously out of this without either party pushing the matter.
Make friends with both women and men. Don’t take them for granted. Don’t abandon them. Bide your time with joy until you run into your dream girl. Slowly open up to her in an enchanted dance. She will soon occupy center stage in your life, and you will be truly ready to join her there.
Sexual enlightenment is short and sweet: When she’s hot, she’s hot! When she’s not, she’s not!
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