Have you ever spotted a gorgeous lady in the corner of the room, and lo and behold, she was all alone? To make it even more interesting, she flashes a generous smile that seems to go your way. You mosey right up to her, only to have your mind go totally blank.
You can’t think of a thing to say. Worse yet, your voice cracks when you try to say, “Hello!” You give a sheepish grin. Glance away and dart to a safer place.
Something like this actually happened to me decades ago in a department store. She was a gorgeous Scandinavian blonde. My voice actually cracked, but, thank God, I didn’t run away.
I continued to ask her a question as my throat went utterly dry. She was totally with me. She went out with me for a quick snack, drove me to an appointment I had and actually gave me her phone number!
Persistence paid.
Since then, I have met a host of women, including Miss America. I have learned to, not only talk to women, but to actually touch them in appropriate ways. I have found some of the most stunning women to actually be very nice people.
What Every Beautiful Woman Wants You to Know
Beautiful women are like other women, except that their exceptionally good looks scare most men away. In addition, they spend a lot of time grooming and dressing themselves to keep looking like a model.
Other women often become extremely jealous to the point where their only friends are other beautiful women.
Most attractive women desire even more than the average lady to be admired for their brains and their accomplishments. In many cases, the woman has already done exceptional things. In some cases, she may be a Ph.D. or an M.D.
These women want a chance to express their innermost self; except they rarely get a chance, unless, as a pageant queen, they are asked what they would do to make this a better world.
Beautiful women want you to know that they are dying to have you ask them questions and really listen to them. Watch their body language as they express themselves. Be a friend to them. Watch their subtle signals when they actually come onto you.
Tap into the Four Sensory Channels
Neuro-Linguistic Programming, or NLP, was developed as a technology of consciousness to facilitate dramatic change. It has been forever popularized by Tony Robbins, who, early on, could cure lifetime phobias in 15 minutes or less.
Key to the theory is that we process information from four different channels of communication: Visual, Auditory, Kinesthetic and Digital.
Visual favors pictures, organization and the exercise of imagination. People who look exceptionally good often prefer this channel.
Auditory favors the tone of people’s voices. You listen as much for how someone says what they say than for what they meant. You learn more by listening and asking questions than by seeing. You feel a great need to be heard by others.
Kinesthetic favors doing, moving and touching. People dress comfortably and are not over-concerned about their appearance. They listen to their body and its muscular sensations when making decisions.
Digital favors text and symbols. You live in a world of information. You prefer to text, photograph and email someone more than to actually talk or be with them. In a worse case, you live almost entirely in your head and could actually end up a book worm!
Everyone uses all the channels. However, some of us strongly prefer one channel over others.
We won’t likely be moved, touched and inspired without someone effectively speaking through that channel. This includes beautiful women, some of whom prefer auditory and kinesthetic over visual. These channels are you gateway to a great first impression and a lasting one.
How to Tune into the Right Channel
When you approach a lovely lady, you certainly must say something, and you must listen carefully.
You watch her body language for clues as to what makes her tick, which channel she favors. You will, of course, ask her a question, any open-ended question, and see how she responds.
- What do her eyes suggest? Does she look toward you, or avoid making eye contact. If she looks at you once, will she look at you again?
- What is her body language telling you. Is she open toward you, or pointing away from you? Are her arms open and embracing, or is she withdrawn and defensive?
- What is the sound of her voice telling you? Is her voice warm and caressing, or cool and reserved? Is it flat and monotone or is it highly expressive?
- Is she holding a book, or talking fast with a fancy vocabulary? Do you suspect that she is an intellectual, a Sandra Bullock look-alike in the making?
You need to focus in on the channel that seems most obvious. You will naturally want to talk too much, or get lost in what to say.
Resist the temptation, and keep asking her questions. Keep watching her body. You will soon get a sense of which channel she prefers at that particular moment.
As you get to know her better, you will get clear which one is her dominant style. By tuning into her channel you will create not only a lasting impression, but a long lasting relationship and long lasting love.
How to Break the Touch Barrier
When you tune into the right channel, you will start speaking the woman’s language. She will begin to really hear you. She will feel a bit of empathy for you and may reach out. Ask her name. Crack a joke. Make her feel important.
Then, at appropriate moments, for emphasis on what you say, try lightly touching her forearm or shoulder.
American culture, like the English, has traditionally had a taboo around touching the opposite sex in public, although that is breaking down somewhat.
Any kind of touch, including a handshake, is significant, as it is making your connection a little more human. You need not be considered a lecher for doing this. Many mainline churches now have people walk across the aisles and shake each other’s hands. Back in the hippie days, people actually hugged each other!
Once you have broken the ice, avoid being presumptive or intrusive. At all times, behave like a gentleman. You want to open a way to see her again, via text, social, email or even her phone number.
As much as you can, keep the tone light and playful. Thank her for her time and set a date right then and there. It could be something as simple as meeting her at Starbuck’s on Thursday evening. “What time works best for you?”
How to Inspire True Love
You can actually touch a goddess, but winning her undying love is another matter. You must genuinely care about her, and be incredibly patient and persistent. The key is to value friendship and companionship above all. This greatly reduces the pressure.
Your lady will give you hints as to when and how to get physical. No rush. Believe me! No rush. The tortoise beats the hare every time!
Then, if all goes well, you will graduate to the next level – Do You and Your Lover Speak the Same Language?
Most importantly, take the advice of King Arthur in the movie, Camelot: “Love her. Simply love her!”
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