You have ravished my heart,
My sister, my spouse;
You have ravished my heart
With one look of your eyes,
With one link of your necklace.
How fair is your love,
My sister my spouse!
How much better than wine your love,
And the scent of your perfumes
Than all spices!
~ Song of Solomon
Have you ever wondered why, on Valentine’s Day, every husband, boyfriend or lover makes haste to buy his sweetheart red roses, wine and a Valentine? While never a national holiday, and not usually thought of as a religious holiday, it is scrupulously observed in the United States. This is because every woman cherishes in her heart that she is the only woman for her man or would-be lover.
It is ironic that this is actually a sacred holiday celebrating a Roman martyr named Saint Valentine who healed a young lady of blindness right before his execution. He consoled her with flowers and a tender message, the world’s first “Valentine.”
Ever since the troubadours of the late Middle Ages and the Virgin Mary cult of the Roman Catholic Church, romantic love and sex has been regarded as sacred. The expression of romantic, passionate love is, for most of us, the greatest realization of God this side of heaven. It would be supremely ironic if the Church, with all its prudishness and stubborn insistence on committed love, was actually helping us fulfill our ultimate destiny.
Real Sex Worth Any Price
Real sex is the ultimate dance between a man and a woman, what sex is all about. It need not result in giving birth to a child. Communion, union and merging with another human being is the ultimate gift of life, profoundly spiritual in nature. Real sex, like true love, is forever.
You may be busy going to school, building your career or accumulating money so that eventually you can have a “life.” That is all well and good in its time. However, what if, in the process, you miss the one from whom you are building all this for? She is your dream lady, the woman of destiny. You know it in the eyes, you know it in seconds. Your energy goes straight to your heart even before you have thought up a clever line.
Asking her out may not be in any way convenient when you first encounter her. You might even find yourself flat broke. It doesn’t matter. Only tell the truth.
One evening holding her hands in a stroll is worth any number of nights out on the town. You feel awkward. You feel vulnerable. So much the better! The right woman will fall for that every time.
Real Sex Endlessly Fascinating
You may rationalize that variety is the spice of life. You need to date dozens of women to know what you really want. “Familiarity breeds contempt.” You always want an extra lady or two on the wing! You don’t want to risk being utterly bored…do you?
If you find yourself bored, then you have found the wrong woman. Have you ever looked at films of Marilyn Monroe being interviewed? Marilyn could come up with a hundred looks in just a couple of minutes. It is truly amazing! (I’ve gazed at certain women for hours without being accused of lechery.) If you can’t get enough of a certain woman, you are moving in the right direction.
Imagine if the act of love was a total act of communication every single time, an exquisite dance where the woman talked to you with more than her lips, and you really listened? Not only did she make you feel like a million dollars, she opened you up to a new world. Around her you become a new man. You have the irrepressible feeling of being BORN AGAIN.
Sex, Itself, the Tip of the Iceberg
Is sex in and of itself what you really want? If you look closely at it, sex is the ultimate expression of love, of really letting go, of literally getting into someone very special. While sex is the thing you can most easily point to, like the tip of the iceberg, it is what is underneath that makes it all worthwhile.
Sex is the beginning of starting a new life together, where you find the woman much wiser than you, with a keen instinct to help you grow, become your truest self and thereby prosper in the world. Women play all kinds of games only when they feel compelled to compromise. A woman is a man’s ultimate booster and guaranteed recourse in the innumerable reversals of life.
The iceberg is your life together. “We” and “Us” are actually a unique third-person that emerges from the two of you. In a good couple, you see a profound sense of well-being together that blesses everyone they encounter. A deep, committed relationship sealed with true love and real sex is empowering to the entire community.
No Sex Better Than Empty Sex
You may be of the opinion that any sex is better than no sex at all. You might consider Woody Allen’s joke, “What’s wrong with masturbation? At least it’s with someone I love.” If you don’t really love the woman, and, worse yet, you find her unattractive in the morning, what have you accomplished?
Why make it all the harder to find your true love? Why not appreciate all the women in your life and be good friends with any number of them? What’s wrong with just friendship? Give yourself enough time, and you will find out that, from a human standpoint, nothing is more important than friendships.
The woman you really want loves men who are choosy, men who will not settle for just any woman. You know that kind of woman I am talking about. She may not be an actual beauty queen or starlet, but she is absolutely stunning. Her eyes, her lips, her voice make you melt. You are smitten with her in seconds flat. You really wonder from what planet she came to grace this earth. Then let her grace your life.
Real Sex Worth Any Wait
You may know what it feels like to pass a Thanksgiving, Christmas or New Year’s Eve alone. Maybe you are fortunate enough to make it to a single’s party. Yet it is never enough! It is no fun being single when you could easily find a date by compromising your values, your principles, your future.
I remember reading about professional models, the stunning young women who grace the pages of Vogue Magazine. They come out of the Ford Modeling agency and a handful of others, living in L.A. and New York. There are only 300 or so of them working full-time in the whole country.
These ladies live like monks with ultimate discipline in their exercise, their diet and how they spend every minute of their working day. They give everything to their short-lived career. When one of them hits the cover, you need not guess at how she will respond when asked if it was worth it all.
Real sex, sex with true love, is worth any price and any amount of time waiting. If you have to meet 10,000 women, let it be. Real sex is endless fascinating and so fulfilling that one night could last you a lifetime. The right one will never cease to enthrall you. As you build a life together, you will become utterly transformed.
If it takes forever, I will wait for you
For a thousand summers, I will wait for you
Till you're back beside me, till I'm holding you
Till I hear you sigh here in my arms
~Andy Williams
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