Have you ever wondered if you were just another cog in a gigantic machine, utterly replaceable? Have you felt pretty much useless as a man, despite any obvious genetic endowments, in the wake of robots, clones, artificial insemination and gay marriages?
Why would a real woman ever choose a man like YOU?
Sexual Roles: Then and Now
Ever since the hunting and gathering stage of humanity, we men have had to face the outer world, while women have had to focus on giving birth and nurturing the next generation of humanity. When finding reliable food, water, clothing and shelter occupied most of our time, the roles were highly defined.
In the modern era, although boys played knights in shining armor while girls played house, men still had to wrestle with college, career and earning money. The women could be counted on to do all the rest, including give birth, raise children, cook, clean the house and do the dirty dishes.
Men held all the financial power over women. The compact was clear and unmistakable. Most women dutifully played along.
After the sexual revolution, Western society faced women’s liberation, when all the roles were brought into question. Equal pay for equal work. Sexual discrimination has legal repercussions. Women aspired to do everything men did, and then some. Birth of the Supermom.
Today, Supermom is not all that attractive, and men have learned to play ball since the 1980’s and assume many of the nurturing activities. My partner counts on her husband to play chef 365 days a year (he is superb, by the way).
The underlying truth is that real wages in terms of constant U.S. dollars have eroded in the last generation. Where, before, a high school grad who did a brief stint in the armed forces could comfortably support a family of four in grand style, today two people have to work very hard to even hope of buying, let alone leasing, a house.
Is It Really All About Sex and Money?
In the recent Presidential election, we witnessed an archetypal Women’s Libber win the Democratic ticket, and an archetypal Male Chauvinist win the Republican ticket. After this, no one can claim that women haven’t broken the glass ceiling, if there ever was one.
What is shocking about this particular election is that many women in the red states deserted the liberal Democratic woman for the conservative Republican man who reasserted earlier sexual and ethical values.
While it is clear that many of them, angered by the relative decline of wages, voted their pocketbook, something else may have been going on.
Could there be a deeper issue modern and postmodern people have been sidestepping? Could it be that many women want men to be men, and many men want women to be women?
Are we now looking for “real” men and women, and find that both major American parties have been offering subpar candidates?
The Man Inside / The Woman Inside
What has emerged with huge implications since the 1960’s and 1970’s is that all men have a woman inside them, and all women have a man inside them.
This was not simply a product of the gay rights movement. It was the profound recognition of great therapists like Carl Jung who recognized the archetypes, or deep, embedded images within our collective psyche that orient us to life and the world.
Men have the anima, or inner woman, drawn from their mother, and perhaps the collective memory of humanity. They project that idealized woman onto ladies they meet and often fall hopelessly in love.
Women have the animus, or inner man, from their father, and perhaps from the collective unconscious. They respond to strength. Seeing external strength puts them in touch with their own inner power.
For most of us, our actual gender, male or female, is dominant, while the opposite gender is recessive. We can now be fairly sure that 2% of us are genetically wired to prefer the same sex.
However, this leaves 98% of us following the ancient pattern, whether we like it or not.
What Women Want Most From a Man
Transformational leaders of the 1970’s, such as Werner Erhard, came to realize that women are more powerful than men.
In the Be, Do and Have triad, men were preoccupied with the game, whereas women tended to go straight to having. Men loved to awe the campfire listeners with their recount of the hunt, while women enjoyed cooking and eating the game.
This was reinforced by the ingenuity of Vic Baranca, founder of More University, who showed us how, in modern American culture, men were primarily characterized by wanting to play games, as most of the joy was in the hunt, the prize was just a trophy to show off.
Women, in contrast, loved the process of pure being, the actual experience, itself, as opposed to concentrating primarily on the end result. Men went after the orgasm as an objective to prove their virility, while women saw the orgasm as icing on the cake, the fireworks at the end of the evening.
This was refined by Justin Sterling, who pioneered the Gorilla’s course for women. Justin taught women that, to succeed with men, don’t mess with him, he is an 800 pound gorilla and can lash out at you if you cross him.
Back off and help him succeed in his mission. Justin then introduced the men’s course, where he revealed that…
…when it comes to power, women are the ocean liner, and men are the tugboats.
When you combine insights from these great leaders, you come to the realization that women respond to men who know who they are and what they want.
Women are not seeking money and sexual prowess in and of themselves. They are seeking men with passion and vision, men with an inner power that no one can take away.
Women are wired to help make men’s dreams happen. Men are lost scratching their heads until they meet the right women to point the way to making it happen. Men draw the lines in a coloring book or a paint-by-numbers picture, and women fill in the colors.
Men architect the skeleton, women clothe the skeleton with flesh and blood. Men are into ideas. Women are into making ideals real.
If you ever check out a gay or lesbian community, you will find out that men and women actually break up into opposite roles. In addition, if you speak with a lot of isolated women, they are deeply frustrated that they have no men around to make it happen.
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How to Be the Man You Have Always Wanted to Be
In Justin Sterling’s remarkable course, we were directed to get in touch with both our power, and our vulnerability. We empower women by sharing our vision and asking their help in fulfilling it.
Women empower men by finding out their vision, even when the men, themselves, are clueless. Enlightened women are all about inspiring men to dream, and then showing those men how make their dreams come true.
At the close of Justin’s beautiful course, we were all given a rose in a candlelit ceremony, where we got in touch with our inner power, our deep need of a woman’s touch and our total vulnerability.
Since then, I have found that, when I deeply share my vision with a woman, if she is the right woman, she will powerfully respond. She seems to care more about that than how much money is in my account, or how many pounds I can lift (or carry on my waste).
I invite you to consider the power of Justin Sterling’s mantra and try it out. You have genius inside you, enough genius to change the whole world. If you only knew…if you only stepped forward.
You are the man you have always wanted to be… WHEN YOU ARE BEING!
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